- End The Cycle Of Negativity -
Love seems to be the cause of all the happiness and pain in the world. If your love is reciprocated, you will be the happiest person on earth. But if your love is one-sided, that is, if it is not returned to you in equal measure, then it can be a source of great sorrow.
But what really is love? Is true love only the one that is reciprocated? On the contrary, love is a one-way street. Love is what you give, and not what you receive. Love is undemanding, it never asks for anything in return. Though, deep down in our hearts, each one of us knows this, it doesn’t lessen the amount of grief that unrequited love causes.
It takes real strength to accept that our love is not cherished and not even given a second thought. But, what is it then that makes people fall in love so recklessly? Love isn’t a choice. There is good in everyone. And when the good far outweighs the bad in a person in our opinion, we start falling in love. We respect, like and even blindly trust that person. This is what makes the pain of rejection even more difficult to endure. We consider that person as too good to be able to hurt us, and when they do, we are left heartbroken.
One-sided love is like falling in love with the moon. You can only wistfully stare at it, knowing fully that it can never be yours. This feeling may depress you for a while, but people usually get over it.
On the other hand, a one-sided relationship is potentially dangerous. Usually the partner who does not love wishes to gain some kind of advantage from this relationship. He/she will exploit the other in some or the other way. They usually feel no remorse as they use the other individual in order to obtain something in return. Financial or physical exploitation are the most common reasons behind this kind of relationship. Some people also agree to one-sided relationships because they are too weak to say “no”. They would much rather be trapped in a fruitless relationship and give the other a false sense of security than tell the truth about their feelings. In either way, a one-sided relationship will eventually make the “victim” realize that his/her trust has been breached.
So, how can one get over a one-sided relationship? The first thing to do is to break-up at the slightest indication of being exploited. Then, in order to get over your one-sided feelings, you must TRY to stop thinking about them. Keep yourself busy, do anything that keeps your mind occupied. Don’t wallow in self-pity. Tell yourself you are strong and that you can come out of this. And lastly, pledge that you will never give anyone the false impression of being in love with them. Don’t do onto others what you wouldn’t want them to do to you…